My wife and I have these t-shirts. They are both a kind of chocolate brown color. Hers, in pink letters, says, “I love my husband” and mine, in a tan color, says, “I love my wife.” For whatever reason, I tend to wear mine more often than she wears hers. I’m a t-shirt guy, I know it has nothing to do with her actual love for me.

Because I wear it fairly often, and because I’m out and about so much, lots of people see it. I frequently see people doing double takes and then making some kind of facial expression. Some people express happiness. Others confusion. Yet others express something akin to, “Whatever.”

But more often than not, this is what happens. I’m in line at a store, coffee shop, something, and either a woman in line, or the female cashier will ask me either, “Did your wife buy that for you?” or “Does your wife make you wear that?” Married, single, it doesn’t seem to matter. It’s always women who ask. When they ask, you can just tell that they are thinking, “I wish my husband [perhaps future] would publicly express his love for me somehow.”

Men, I’m not saying you need to get this magic shirt. But I am saying that our wives need to feel the love, they need to see the love, sometimes they even need others to see that you love them. When was the last time you did this, not because you have to meet some need of hers out of obligation, but because it was in you and you wanted to, you had to get it out of you?

Paul says in Ephesians 5, “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her.” How did Jesus show His love for His bride, the church? Very publicly, for all the world to see. He demonstrated His love. He showed us how it works. So, men, think about it. That’s all I’m saying. When was the last time you, on your own, without being prompted, did something for your wife that publicly demonstrated your love for her? Yeah, this could be considered a prompting to do something. Fine. But the point remains.

I can hook you up with a shirt if you need a place to start.